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What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
Matthew 19:6
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VincentGuillotine Featured By Owner Sep 8, 2013
Actually, it is. It's been one since ancient Rome.
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Sakura136 Featured By Owner May 4, 2012
Like i said in another thing against divorce, i disagree greatly : My mother was having a freaking depression because of her marriage, me and my little sister were having negatives vibes because of it and everyone in my family was generally unhappy because of it. And plus, this is a really old quote. There was also one that says that women should be pretty accesories who are quiet and stuff, you know.

But i respect your opinion, tough :shrug:
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Sacred-Sacrilege Featured By Owner Jan 6, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
All of you agreeing obviously never saw your parents scream and throw things at each other,
I did,
Now I spend most of my time with my mother,
I see my dad at weekends,
But it's better than the screaming,
My mom has married again,
I have a sweet little bro now too,
Now it's back to divorce again,
At this point I hate all of you,
Because you never saw the shit hit the fan,
Between your mother and her man.
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QuinSeparable Featured By Owner Aug 8, 2011  Student Writer
First of all, I understand that this is an old piece. And second of all.....Uh....yes it is an option.

Deuteronomy 24:1
When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house. 2 And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man's wife.
(And this isn't the only verse...trust me women are allowed to hand over a certificate of divorce too!)

The bible gives "marital unfaithfulness" as a reason for the divorce. Obviously, G-d hates divorce but knows that 2 sinful beings are going to make mistakes. G-d does not want His children to be unhappy.


Reading some of your replies I see that you've come from a happy, abuse and drug addiction free home. I'm happy for you since that seems to be a rarity now-a-days. However, not everyone has that privilege so posting a piece like this is very offensive. You see, the man that I do believe to be my biological father (not confirmed as of yet) was an abusive man whom my mother divorced in order to save her own life (and perhaps my own as well!) How can you say that divorce is not an option in this case? What about those with drug addiction problems. Or, like my cousin's biological mother...she was neglectful of my cousin nearly killing her. My uncle divorced her to save his daughter's life.

Or myself for instance. I was engaged to a verbally, mentally, and physically abusive man. Are you saying that, once I had married him, I was stuck there for the rest of my life? The G-d I serve would never want one of His children in such a predicament. How dare you say something like this when you have no real world experience of such a relationship!!
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PsalmSeven Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
AMEN!! :clap:
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lexieee23 Featured By Owner Apr 26, 2011
i disagree. (late, i know.) my parents are christians but my dad is mentally abusive. This has caused my mom to go into a depression for years. She wants to stay for us (kids) but my dad won't see a counsellor or support my mom. he doesnt think he's doing anything wrong so you say a problem can be solved but what happens when one doesnt want to solve it? my pastor has talked and talked to my dad but he doesnt want to change. my mom cant take it anymore. how would you solve this? its been going on for at least 6 years.
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fireflower101 Featured By Owner Apr 22, 2011
I believe that unless you are being abused brutaly you shouldn't get divorced.
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TheCityLights89 Featured By Owner Apr 5, 2011
My mom was afraid to divorce my dad for TEN YEARS. Ten years of, cheating on my mom, stealing money and treating her like she was a piece of shit. My dad was too stubborn to work it out with her, and continued to do so. When she finaly divorced, she couldn't be any happier than she is now. She has a stable job, a wonderful boyfriend and two kids she cares for alot. Divorce sometimes is the only option. I think i would rather have my mom dead, than be back with my dad.
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Mihko Featured By Owner Feb 3, 2011  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Why stay in a marriage if you are unhappy? Why would you torture yourself in such a way?
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Shrineheart Featured By Owner Dec 27, 2010  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I'm divorcing, my mom's divorced twice, my sister in law divorced twice, along with countless others that I know have...I don't really see how it's not an option...
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HorrorWolf Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2010
My parents are divorced and Im damn happy. My dad is an abusive jackass. Have a lovely day.
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Thisper Featured By Owner Sep 12, 2010
Yes, yes yes.
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acecat25 Featured By Owner Sep 8, 2010
Ah I am quite sorry for this little story but I have a right to tell my tale.

Divorce truly is an option. If we are talking about The Bible and Christianity, then, yes, I know it does say that in The Bible. I am quite sure, though, that God would NOT like his children to be miserable.

My family was quite miserable before the divorce. My dad was very abusive and cruel to me and my mom. He would hurt her and me and the police would do nothing.

I think divorce WAS the only option then....
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SaintEros Featured By Owner Aug 31, 2010  Professional Digital Artist
I love it!! Brother!! Keep it up. See my work on interfacelift.com we should collaborate! [link]

For the Kingdom!![link]
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Jebsonrain Featured By Owner Apr 10, 2010
Uh . . . divorce is totally an option. Obviously you have no idea what you're talking about. Statistics and stories are great and all, but unless you've acctually been in this bad situation, you have no room to talk. And I can honestly say that my family was in complete distress before my parents got a divorce. Now everyone is happier. And as for "if you don't want your husband to commit adultry, then maybe you should please him" is suched a screwed up idea. My mom has six kids and Dad was constantly away on buisness trips. WHen he came back, do you honestly think my mom had the energy to "please him" And if that is really your theory, you're blambing the cheating on the person who was cheated on. I think you're a douche bag
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Kitsune1414 Featured By Owner Jul 30, 2010
I agree, this is such an idiotic idea. If they commit adultery blame the cheated not the cheater? Really? That's really stupid.

My parents divorced because my dad was to high and drunk to work. Now he barely pays child support, how can this 'artist' say that divorce is wrong? Has he ever been in the same situation? No? Okay then.

I LOVE it when people who have NO IDEA what they're preaching about say it's wrong when they don't even know what it's like. People need to know when to shut up sometimes.

I bet this guy is against gay marriage and women working. Seriously, this is the 21st century people get over yourselves and your out dated ideas...
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s3xkytt3n Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2009  Hobbyist
Sometimes you try to help the person you marry because you love them. But if they don't want to change, they wont. And unfortunately some circumstances do lead to divorce.
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YSR1 Featured By Owner Jan 26, 2010
They do, but the divorce is not the ideal. If you really love the person, would you give up on him/her?
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celestialsunberry Featured By Owner Oct 9, 2009  Professional Digital Artist
Yes, but sometimes you wonder, "Why did I marry this person?" But you know you love them and want to be with them in the end forever even though you want to strangle your spouse sometimes.
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YSR1 Featured By Owner Oct 12, 2009
Yeah, it's so true. I know what you're talking about. I've heard it said. If you're fiance is not your best friend, don't marry him/her.
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celestialsunberry Featured By Owner Oct 12, 2009  Professional Digital Artist
Well, yea, you should totally marry someone that you get along with. It's important.
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YSR1 Featured By Owner Nov 8, 2009
Thank you. I really want to. :)
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iCaptured Featured By Owner Sep 22, 2009
A lot of times, divorce is the only option. When my dad refused to get help with a meth addiction, she got a divorce to keep me safe.

On a personal level, this piece insults me.

There are lots of reasons for divorce. When it comes down to it, lots of people just wont change.

Demeaning divorce, or saying that only people who don't work through their problems get divorce is a silly assumption and invalidates all of the work that single parents do around the world. My mother raised me alone.

So, I'm going to be honest, I take great offense with this piece. My mother worked so hard to raise me to be the person I am today. So, to just say she wasn't willing to work through her marriage's problem not only disregards all her hard work, but gives my father an excuse for being a deadbeat.

Granted, I would have loved to have a complete family, father included, but if the divorce didn't happen, I wouldn't have gotten the joy of knowing my 4 younger siblings.
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YSR1 Featured By Owner Oct 12, 2009
I'm very sorry to offend you Amanda, but when a wife says: "I want a divorce" usually what she's really saying is: "I want you to change" or "I want you to treat me right." Don't you think?
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iCaptured Featured By Owner Oct 12, 2009
Not in my mother's case.
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YSR1 Featured By Owner Nov 8, 2009
Why do you say that?
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iCaptured Featured By Owner Nov 8, 2009
Because my mother TRIED to help my father and he refused to get help. Meth addiction is serious.

Would you suggest that we'd have lived with an addict, around his drugged out friend? Been subject to trouble with drug dealers?

My mother wasn't asking him to change or even to treat her right, she was asking him to get help. And he refused.

Divorce was her only option. If she hadn't done that then my family would have been much more broken up than it is now, and who knows what sort of abuse my mother and I would have gone through.
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YSR1 Featured By Owner Jan 26, 2010
Oh man. It's hard for me to understand. I live in a loving home and my family is drug/alcohol free. We never new what it is like. It is hard for me to give you a solution. However with your parents it is probably too late to change anything. You know I am the christian, I never tried drugs, and I hope I never will. And if the Bible says things about divorce, it says it to the christian couples, unbelievers can do, pretty much, whatever they want to, if that's the case. I just hope it will never happens to you. I really wish the world lived happily ever after without ever knowing the word "Divorce". That would be a perfect world. Wouldn't you agree?
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iCaptured Featured By Owner Jan 27, 2010
I agree that that would be nice, but its difficult when drugs and abusive men and women also inhabit the world. Something really amazing about divorce, though, is that it can create really amazing, strong women, men and children.
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celestialsunberry Featured By Owner Oct 9, 2009  Professional Digital Artist
Yes, sometimes divorce is the only option. But I think the point is that people who get married should do what they can to stay together, to not think of it as an option and try to work it out. At least, I think that might be the best way to think of it. You can only do what you can do, eh? :)
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iCaptured Featured By Owner Oct 9, 2009
Again, sometimes you do all you can and you have no choice.

Hence, why I said that when my father refused to get help with a meth addiction.

No one wants their marriage to fail, so in their heads, no it's not an option. But if they take a look at their life and they want to keep people close to them safe, they have no choice.
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celestialsunberry Featured By Owner Oct 9, 2009  Professional Digital Artist
That's what I just...said......

Unless you weren't replying to me? *Confusion*
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iCaptured Featured By Owner Oct 10, 2009
That's not how I read your reply, I guess.

seemed to me that you were trying to say divorce isn't an option in a round about way. Or something of that nature.
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celestialsunberry Featured By Owner Oct 10, 2009  Professional Digital Artist
That's not what I said at all. I began with, "Yes, sometimes divorce is the only option."

Soooooooooooooooooo. The I continued, "But I think the point is that people who get married should do what they can to stay together, to not think of it as an option and try to work it out.."

I mean, I'm married and marriage takes work, y'know? It's not all roses and rainbows all the time. I said "not as an option" as in, "be dedicated to working it out and do your best." I mean, I don't think you can actually ask more than that.
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iCaptured Featured By Owner Oct 10, 2009
I did read it I just misinterpreted it. Sorry. :)
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celestialsunberry Featured By Owner Oct 10, 2009  Professional Digital Artist
Oh, no biggie, lawl. XD
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Albiona Featured By Owner Oct 8, 2009  Professional General Artist
I couldn´t agree more. Some people are not meant to be together, and if you married at the first, divorce is simply the only way to go.

When I see what some couples and families suffers, just for the sake the word "marriage", it truly saddens me.

I´m not gonna say being religious is wrong or anything, but if God "fixes marriages", why ain´t he able to fix the ones that ends in divorce? Or, why did he couple up two persons not suited for each other in the first place?

On the other side, the piece is nice, even if I don´t agree with the statement. I like the design.
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iCaptured Featured By Owner Oct 9, 2009
Thank you. :)
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iCaptured Featured By Owner Sep 22, 2009
apologies for repetition, I get incoherent when passionate.
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1000th Featured By Owner Sep 20, 2009  Student Digital Artist
Tell that to my parents. :/
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YSR1 Featured By Owner Oct 4, 2009
If I only knew them.
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Crucifer Featured By Owner Aug 5, 2009
There's a line I've heard before...
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YSR1 Featured By Owner Aug 22, 2009
And now you can see it. :)
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Crucifer Featured By Owner Aug 22, 2009
lol true enough.
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SakamotoMichiko Featured By Owner Jul 20, 2009
This is such a simple piece, but God, it speaks volumes. I can't say I agree with the message, but I still like it. :)
I'm going through my mom's second divorce right now (or at least, if all works out, I will be). And I honestly hope she goes through with it. It's not that my stepdad is a bad person--he's a great man who has done a lot for this family, and I consider him my second father. But she isn't happy; she hasn't been for years. She married him when I was about seven, mainly to give me some stability--I never saw my father since he was in the Navy and always moving, and my mom and I lived in a small apartment together, living off what we could. She wanted better for me, so married him. And I'm sure that at one point, she did love him in a romantic way...but not enough. And now, she's miserable and always angry. She never used to be like this, but now, she blows up at the littlest things. The entire family is unhappy because of it. And I still see the old her sometimes--the happy, fun-loving woman who's idea of a good time is blasting music and dancing around to it: the woman I used to have as a mother before she married my stepdad. But he's not like that. He's serious and quiet, the kind of person who falls asleep during a movie after 5 minutes. I miss that woman so much, and I want her back. But whenever my stepdad is home, that woman vanishes, and is replaced by someone a lot angrier.
God, I can't stand it.
And that's why I hope she goes through with it.
I'm not saying that anyone else's opinion is wrong--sometimes people get a divorce over tiny, petty things that make this piece of artwork very true.
But this is my story.
Sorry if I just wasted anyone's time...but I've been wanting to get this out for a while now.
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YSR1 Featured By Owner Aug 29, 2009
No, don't say that. You didn't waste anyone's time. I hope that your mom and her spouse will be well. I don't think divorce is a solution, fixing problems between them is a solution.
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SakamotoMichiko Featured By Owner Sep 11, 2009
Thanks very much for that. :) I don't like divorce being used as a problem-solver, either, but sometimes it's all one can think of doing, y'know? Just have to get through it. Thanks, again. :)
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SimplyCydney Featured By Owner Jul 11, 2009
I wish that were the case.
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ToastedWhiskers Featured By Owner Jun 22, 2009
I can agree with this, but only to a point. My parents... were never married, and I can say I'm as torn up about my father's absence as I would have been about a divorce, but I realize that it's for the best. Love may be give and take, but if only one of the spouses are giving, it's not going to work, as I well know. You quote the bible, and seem to be stating that women are the problem in marriages. Everything you say echoes 'If you were satisfying him he wouldn't cheat' or 'Well maybe you should behave more'. But religion can't fix everything, whether it's the man, the woman, or absolutely no one in the wrong. And divorce is an option, whether it's one you will consider or not.

Aside from that, I can fully support that you feel strongly enough about this to make this lovely work of art, as long as you are not pushing your beliefs onto others.

Oh, and if I may... Just because you stop replying to someone's comments doesn't mean you're right. It means you can't find an answer or can't best them and are giving up. Kind of a bad thing to show how strongly you do or don't feel.
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YSR1 Featured By Owner Aug 29, 2009
Hey, thanks for the compliment, and I wasn't able to answer all the comments because I was in Russia for two months where I didn't have access to the internet. Anyways, back to the subject, I agree with you that religion cannot fix a marriage problems between two spouses, and it never will fix anything. However God fixes marriages and that's his will to do so. Read Matthew 19:1-9. Jesus is against divorces he's also against adultery in marriage (Hebrews 13:4) and so on.
But you seem to be pro divorce, and that's fine, I'm not gonna force my views on you. It's your life and you can do whatever you want with it, but will your choices make you happy?
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